This whole month of September we’ve been talking about NOT SETTLING. Go check out my Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/coachyeamah/. I have daily words of encouragement and inspiration to keep you motivated so that you don’t settle. I love the thought of people living the life they’ve always dreamed of. I love thinking about a brilliant beautiful person fulfilling their dreams and passions living the good life. Please let that be you. I’m definitely going to let it be me. :)
Also, know that I’m writing from my own daily experiences with not settling. I am not preaching to you or talking AT you. I am speaking from my personal ongoing journey to living the life of my dreams. I am sharing the lessons I’m learning along the way. Most of those lessons I’m learning the hard way.
Recently, I’ve had to learn a lesson about settling when it comes to friendships. This was a hard one because it’s takes a very long time for me to let anyone close to me because I love very intensely, whether it’s a friend or a partner. I literally have never had more than 4 real friends around me at one time. Don’t get me wrong I have a lot of acquaintances, some of which may consider me their friends but there’s a difference between me being friendly and you being my friend.
The lesson I’ve learned when it comes to friendships is this: A close/best friend is a person with whom you should share a similar non-negotiable belief of the nature of God.
Here’s what I mean. If you have a friend who believes that God makes you sick to teach you a lesson and you believe God will never ever do that because He’s a good God; that friendship will break your heart eventually. I believe that God is a good God all the time, not because it’s some Christian cliché but because that truth brought me through the hardest season of my life. I will never believe that God will put something/someone in my life that will be less than what I would’ve chosen for myself. I will never believe that God is sometimes good and sometimes bad—and I don’t believe this something complicated either. The scriptures say every GOOD AND PERFECT gift comes from Him. He is good ALWAYS.
We make choices and decisions in our life, as Christians, based upon who we believe God to be. If we think He’s got this weird hard-to-understand path for our lives th
at is really painful but in some weird way is bringing Him pleasure to see us suffer and that is somehow noble and virtuous—we will let satan sell us all kinds of nonsense and we will just take it. We will settle. We will not want to make it seem like we’re resisting God, I mean after all His thoughts and ways are higher than ours right? Who can really understand Him anyway? ENHH!! WRONG!!!
The people you hang out with the most—those close/best friends of yours—influence the outcome of your life in a major way. If you do not agree with how they see the world—if it is fundamentally different from how you see the world and understand God; and not just different but you disagree---let those friends go. Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you. Free up your circle—you need people who vibe on the same frequency as you. You need those who are in harmony with you. Life is too short to be trying to pull an unwilling person in a direction opposite of where they’re going. Trust God with that (after all, they may be thinking the same thing about you. :)
Don’t settle for friendships just so you can say you have a friend. Vibing (pretty sure I made this word up lol) alone and moving in the right direction is way better than staying stuck because you’re trying to be a friend. Trust me, it’s not worth it. Let them go find their tribe—and go find yours.
You are loved deeply,